Discovering your partner’s infidelity and sexual betrayal feels earth shattering. As you learn about the infidelity or addiction, you may be questioning your entire relationship and memories you have held dear. It may feel as if you don’t know the person sleeping next to you. Though you didn’t ask for this pain nor did you do anything to cause it, it is now your responsibility to seek healing for yourself. Healing from the trauma of your partner’s sex addiction is possible one step at a time. Together we can work to pick up the pieces. Because betrayed partners exhibit many symptoms of trauma, I use a trauma informed approach based on the Multidimensional Trauma Model to work through the betrayal, pain, and next steps toward freedom. 


Issues treated:

  • Boundaries

  • Trauma

  • Psychoeducation on sex addiction

  • Codependency traits

  • Healthy recovery

  • Finding your voice

  • Therapeutic separation

  • Conjoint couples counseling

  • Formal therapeutic disclosure process

  • Healing from betrayal

  • Rebuilding trust


Research indicates that couples who achieve sustainable, long-lasting recovery have bother partners engaged in individual therapy, group therapy, 12-step groups, and are doing recovery literature reading. Here are a few resources that I have found to be helpful:


Support Groups:

Road to Restoration: One Day Healing Intensive for Partners (Foundry Oakland)

Partners & Spouses of Sex Addicts Group (Foundry Oakland)

Vicki Tidwell Palmer's Online Support Group


12-Step Groups: